Do you ever feel like you're in competition with your mommy friends?
I don't ask this question because of any specific trigger, I just ask because it is so interesting to watch other moms at the playground. It's inevitable that the woman next to you will try to throw in how early her child walked, or how many sight words they know, or how they can paint like Picasso. I wonder why we as women and mothers feel the need to make our children the "best." When is how they really are good enough?
The conversation doesn't just center around kids though...how much your husband helps at home, how much weight you lost, where you live....we feel the need to qualify our own attributes to each other. It's like a mini-mom pecking order where everyone's got to be on top.
I frequently tell people the boys have special needs, or aren't potty trained at 3 years, 2 months. They appear horrified. I'm not sure why. Is it because they'd have to admit the things their own children didn't do "first" or is it because they don't know what to make of someone who doesn't need to be at the top.
Don't get me wrong, I am not immune. Sometimes I want to say something so fabulous about my children that it quiets all the other moms. I am proud of my kids and I like to talk about them as much as the next person. But why must we as women and mothers feel like we're in constant competition with each other? Stay at home versus working moms. Formula versus breastfed. Life is hard enough managing the day to day without the added stress.
It's time we as women stop competing and start supporting.